Our dreams are calling us

How dare you settle for less when the world has made it so easy for you to be remarkable. – Seth Godin – Author and Speaker
Our dreams are calling us. Are we answering them or putting them to voice mail, because we don’t want to have that inner conversation with ourselves. What causes us to put things on hold? How many of your dreams do you have in voice mail waiting for a return call?
We all do this in some way. I know that if someone compliments me the first thought in my mind is discounting what they said.
When I was growing up my sister closest in age to me was always the pretty one, the beautiful one. She is 18 months younger and her body matured faster than mine. She is several inches taller than my 5’3″. I was the smart one. This comparison ran through our childhood. She to this day carries that role of not being smart, even thought it isn’t true, and I carry the role of not being pretty.
This past few weeks my personal FB page has really been growing. I think that FB has been showing my photo for my personal page up in “the people you know timeline”. My guess is that it is a combination of how many of you wonderful people are “Liking” our LemonadeMaker posts and page (Thank You!!!) and, as I am part of several large groups I end up having a lot of similar friends. I also think that some people figured out I am the founder of LemonadaMakers and request my personal fb friend page too.
However it is happening, there has also been some of those requests that even though I try to screen them turn out to be men looking at my picture and requesting a friendship. When they say they like my smile – which is the usual first comment they make, I immediately think something negative like that’s because you don’t see the rest of me.
Why do we do that? What is it that causes us to turn away from a compliment about our looks, the quality of our work – anything that seems personal? People could compliment me about my children or grandchildren and I don’t turn away from that. Only if it is personal about me.
There was a commercial video I saw a few months back talking about the phrase “sorry” when we mean “excuse me”. We are apologizing when we didn’t do anything wrong It was by Pantene the shampoo company and it really reflected how many times we use it when we really mean something else.
We open a office door to talk to someone and say “sorry”. We brush by someone and say “sorry”. The list goes on. Look for it in the next few weeks, how many times you or another women says “sorry” when what should be said is “excuse me”. The suggestion is that we feel undeserving, and so say “I’m Sorry” for taking up your time, for taking up space, for thinking that I might have something to contribute.
Sheryl Sandberg was really talking about this when she said “we’ve got to get women to sit at the table.” She talked about how she went to a conference room for a meeting and the women were not sitting at the conference table, they were sitting around the table in the extra chairs against the wall. They were doing this even though there were empty seats at the conference table.
She felt that a big piece of why we don’t take a seat at the table is because we don’t want the label of “bossy” and the other “B” word when we take the lead. We shouldn’t be afraid to be as ambitious as men. We should ask for what we want – the raise, the promotion, to take the lead. We shouldn’t be afraid to be told we have a beautiful smile.
So I am ending this with my most favorite quote by Marianne Williamson because – How dare any of us settle for less when the world is waiting for us to be remarkable!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

Live Your Dreams


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If you can see it, you can be it and do it!

Lt Col Brandt, had an idea when she learned that more women pilots were coming to her base. She did the math and realized that they had enough women to do an all female crew to break some records for the longest flight without refueling the aircraft for military aircraft. And that is just what these ladies did. Way to go Ladies – what a great example for the girls growing up to realize that they can be and do anything that they want to with their lives.

This month marks the first anniversary of Lady Hawk Day in the city of Grand Forks, ND. Mayor Mike Brown established the day in recognition of the “Flight of the Lady Hawk,” the longest flight without air refueling on record for a military aircraft, led by an all-women team.

According to Lt. Col. Brandt, what differentiates this particular record from others like it, is that all of the women pilots included in the mission came from the same squadron. Historically, groups have had to reach out to other squadrons or units to get enough women together to achieve a record. And in addition to the six women pilots managing the remote flight, the more than 50 support staff and ground crew were also women.

Capt. Natalie Winkels, one of the pilots who participated in the historic mission, reached out to us to share the group’s incredible accomplishment and to “show aspiring young men and women out there that women are setting world records.”

See more: http://www.womenyoushouldknow.net/flight-of-the-lady-hawk-…/

You can’t dream when you are struggling to survive

This one hits home for me. When I was 13 yrs old, my mom left my stepdad for another man. We moved from San Jose where we lived in a three bedroom home and used the garage as a fourth bedroom into a motel room with one bedroom which was my moms. There were seven kids who slept in the living room. All we had was the clothes we could fit into a pillow case.

We were surviving on welfare food, which wasn’t sufficient to last the entire month. Then my mom’s new boyfriend disappeared and we could no longer afford the rent. My mom started bringing back to our place men she picked up in bars in order to pay for the motel room. When that wasn’t enough we moved to a campground. We were homeless for several months while she reconciled with my step father and they saved to get us into a new home.

So this tagline, that you can’t dream when you are struggling to survive is something that I can totally understand – I was in that place.

This documentary takes a fresh look at public housing, something that maybe we could have turned to if such a thing had been available.

It is nice to see Jewel involved, and I hope that her celebrity can help in bringing awareness to the housing issue for those living at or below poverty level.

The film makers stories have won Emmys, been used by the world’s largest brands, and have made a real difference in the world. They believe that, with story, we can guide hearts and move minds. I hope that is true, because far too many families like ours fall between the cracks. No child should have to go to bed hungry or wonder where they will be sleeping the next night.

see more at:  http://www.stillmotion.ca/films/



How dare you settle for less when the world has made it so easy for you to be remarkable. – Seth Godin – Author and Speaker

Our dreams are calling us. Are we answering them or putting them to voice mail, because we don’t want to have that inner conversation with ourselves. What causes us to put things on hold? How many of your dreams do you have in voice mail waiting for a return call?



“One of the most beautiful gifts in the world is the gift of encouragement. When someone encourages you, that person helps you over a threshold you might otherwise never have crossed on your own.” – John O’Donohue

There are times in our lives, when we see the full vision of possibilities for our lives. We see it when we are young and full of hopes and dreams. We haven’t yet been taught the false teachings of “you aren’t enough”. Not smart, pretty, rich, skinny, etc…, enough. As adults we get glimpses of it and immediately the inner voice starts in. It starts in with all the possible obstacles or responsibilities that you have. Things which will prevent you from achieving that dream. A warning sign that says “Stop – Danger, Bridge Out”.

We all need encouragement. When someone is brave enough to state their dream aloud, whether they are 4, 40, or 80 years old, they are asking for encouragement to pursue it. It is something that we should give to them whole heartedly. We all can remember times when we told something to someone that we wanted to bring into our lives. So to not be hurt, we added a negative energy comment at the end of it, to deflate our dream before they could.

Hopefully the person that we confided in encouraged us to go for it. It is something to think about when we hear others express their dreams. Look for ways to not only encourage them, but offer to help bring that dream into reality. When they express that dream to us, it might be so big that they can’t even begin to imagine how to accomplish it. Just help them see the first step. Once they get going, they will be led to see the next step, and so on.

What I loved about this picture is that it has the appearance of angel wings. The divine being, that we all are. The fact that we all have angels around us encouraging us to pursue the dreams. Whatever you are currently dreaming, pursue it with everything you have.

Ask for divine guidance. Ask for your friends and family to help you. Don’t let the “monkey” mind discourage you from pursuing it. Don’t let obstacles stop you. Remember that they are really just illusions. There are days when you are wading through mud. Where it feels like you are being stopped at every turn. Days where you have decided that you should just give up. That thinking is all illusionary. The truth of the matter is that you need tools in your toolbox to achieve your dream.

Every one of those times you feel that the universe is stopping you, you are getting a new tool. This is something that you will need to accomplish your dreams. I am sure that like me, you can think of times in your past where this was true for you.

I encourage you to do two things. Pursue your dreams and don’t let them die. Encourage everyone you meet to do the same. I think that when we do that, the whole world will shift and change into the world that we dream about living in.



If you don’t build your own dream, someone else will hire you to help build theirs.” (Tony Gaskins Jr. and Farrah Gray are both credited with this quote.)

This is so true and what most of us are stuck in, building everyone’s dreams but our own.

Many years ago when my kids were in the range of grade school and Jr High School, I was working for a mortgage company in the Seattle area. One day the boss had all of us in an emergency meeting. Walking around the room, he spoke about how he felt that the year we were in was going to be a very good year for mortgages, but that the following year would see a downturn in our industry.

Getting more excited as he walked around us, he stated that he was mandating mandatory overtime on weekends. It was critically important he said, that he make as much money as he could that year. The important thing was that he wanted a new Porsche. He felt that next year he wouldn’t be able to afford to buy one, so it had to happen this year.

Needless to say, this didn’t go over very well with his staff, as we were all looking at him like “what did he just say?”. I was floored that he would be so bold as to tell us that the sole reason why we should be working overtime (when we were paid a salary and not hourly) was for his personal gain. He wasn’t too happy when I told him, that he could fire me if he wanted, but I was not going to be working every weekend – mandatory or not.

Most of us started working in order to fulfill our dreams. The reality is though, that this isn’t what happens. We get caught up in the day to day grind of getting a paycheck that always seems to fall short of what we think we need to fulfill those dreams. So the dreams get put into the “someday” pile that becomes buried and becomes the forgotten pile.

For me, I had the dream of writing bestselling books. I would read the mystery, the science fiction/fantasy book or the self help book and think, “I could write this”. But I was always so busy working, taking care of the house and children, that I thought, “well, as soon as the kids are gone, then I will write.” The kids are all gone, and other than the LemonadeMakers blog and Facebook, my writing the Great American Novel or even the smaller mystery book still isn’t happening.

My dream got put on hold, and I can’t seem to take it off – I think that the Staples “easy” button isn’t working right – who do you call to get if fixed?.

Farah Gray has another quote “You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.” This quote got me thinking about how it was never that I didn’t have the time. Because if that was all that it was, I would have written those books that we all know that I have in me. It was and always has been about the self confidence to put myself naked on the page. It has always been about fear of not being good enough, of failing and being a flop. About what if people picked my stories apart and ridiculed me?

I had built the walls myself that separated me from achieving my dreams, that separated me from even trying to do so. I still have a box of stories started but never completed. Well I am getting ready to tear down those walls of separation.

Through a series of events, I have been getting the message loud and clear, that I need to get out the pen and paper and start writing. I am going to follow the advice of Steve Jobs, “don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice.” It is past the time to pour my soul out onto the paper. The worst that can happen is that you throw the paper in the trash.

It would be great if some of you were brave enough to join me as a demolition crew and tear down the walls that we have been hiding behind. What dreams do you have hidden behind a wall? Is it time to start tearing down your walls too?